Partner Traits

After a full year + of working on me with my therapist, it's time to think about dating.

I feel like I'm in a really good space and what I want is starting to take shape.

I was always afraid of being too picky.  I thought if a guy was interested in me, that meant I needed to hold onto them and be whatever they want so that I didn't have to be alone...

You know, I don't mind being alone.  In fact, it's important to me to have my freedom and my own space.

So I've started putting together what I want in a partner.

1. I want someone who's self aware and working on themselves.

He's got to be moving in a direction, not sitting still, not resting on some accomplishment, but working to improve himself.

2. I want someone who's independent.

I do better with people who don't need me all of the time.  I work long hours and have interests that he doesn't have to match.  I'm not saying I only want a booty call.  I'm saying it wouldn't be a good fit if he needed me 24/7/365 next to him.

So far, these are the only two things that come up....

But then, in my head, I think about my kink desires.  How do these two traits mix with my submissiveness?  Am I asking for too much?

And then, tonight, I read Mollena's journal post.

And finding what's right is more important than it happening on my timeline.